Basic Emotional Needs

All human beings have strivings for connection, understanding and growth. In Schema Therapy, we talk about basic emotional needs. The idea being if these needs are met in childhood, we’ll grow into confident adults who feel worthy.

Unfortunately for many people, these needs weren’t met. When this happens, we look at ways to meet these needs now as adults.

What are these needs?

Safety and Stability. Having a safe physical space as well as an internal sense of safety and stability.

Identity and Autonomy. Do you have a sense of who you are? We can have an identity as a parent, partner, or friend, but it’s also important to know who we are outside of these roles.

Freedom to Express your Needs. It’s important to express your needs in a safe and respectful way and to be heard and valued by others.

Limits and boundaries. To have loving discipline and structure to help us stay safe emotionally and physically.

Play and Spontaneity. Adulting is hard. Responsibilities and the day-to-day stress of life can take their toll. It’s important to make time for fun and play.

Children who don’t have their emotional needs met may have difficulties identifying their emotional needs as adults.

Schema Therapy has shown remarkable results in helping young people change patterns they have lived with for a long time.

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